Questioner: Sadhguru, what about our needs and desires? Don't we need to fulfill them?
Sadhguru: What is your desire? Just name one.
Questioner: I mean food. sex and sleep.
Sadhguru: Your desire is not about food, sex or sleep. You do not have a desire for sleep. When you have a desire you want to stay awake the whole night, isn't it? So sleep is not on the list of desires. Maybe when you are tired you want to rest, you want to relax, but sleep is not on your desire list. Food is also not on the desire list. It is a basic requirement. What type of food may be on the desire list, but food itself is not on the desire list. It is much deeper than that. Food is just for your survival. What I should eat tonight may be on the desire list; the variety, the choice is social. So discounting those two, let us look at the third thing that you mentioned: sexuality. Your desire is not for sex. One part of it is that your intelligence has been hijacked by your hormones. Another part of it is that there is a certain pleasure attached to it. Another part of it is that you are desperately trying to become one with somebody; it is a desperate attempt. You have tried hard, but it does not work. Has it worked? It has not. People are going at it with full vigor thinking they will become one. At that moment, it looks like it is going to happen. It looks like a possibility, but the next moment you know it is not. So either you realize this on your deathbed or you realize it now and look for other ways that may work. Now, you may ask, "Oh, should I give this up?" There is no need to give up anything. As I said earlier, when you were a child, did you have some kind of a doll of your own? Let us say 'you had a teddy bear or a Barbie doll, or whatever, something that went all over the world with you. Now you had this teddy bear with you. At one point in your life this teddy bear was more important than your mother, your father, God, or all of them put together, yes? At a certain point in your life, at that time, suppose I had told you, "See, this teddy bear is just a bundle of cotton. What is the big deal? Let us throw this nonsense away." Would you have listened? No way. But as you grew up, you saw other things, got interested in many other things. Then where did the teddy bear go which was more precious than anything else in your life? Where did it go? Most of you do not even know where it went, or how it got disposed of. Do you know? Most of you are not even aware. If you had a very meticulous mother, then maybe you know where it is. Otherwise you do not know where the hell it went. Isn't it so? So something that was so very important for you at one stage in life, at another stage in life, doesn't mean anything. Similarly, right now, you are hanging on to certain teddy bears because you do not know any better. If you taste something bigger, the smaller will just naturally fall off. If you get to know something of a bigger dimension than what you know right now, the little things will naturally fall off. Do you have to give it up? Do you have to renounce it? No, it will just fall off. Now I am a hundred percent for intoxication. I will vote for intoxication always, but I never drink nor do I take any drugs. I just learned a different way of getting drunk – all the time, at no cost, and with no hangover. It does not cost anything. You can just get drunk anytime and at the same time you can remain fully balanced. You will have no hangovers, and it is good for your health. Is it not a better drink? Is it not better to shift from wine to the divine? So suppose I taught you a simple technology with which your body is always in extreme pleasure. Do you want it to be touched by somebody now? No, because that somebody will be a disturbance now. You sit here and you are in absolute pleasure - a million times more than what you would know through sexuality. So why would you go for sexuality? The biggest problem with sexuality is that it never lasts, is it not? The biggest frustration for people who are dedicated to sex is just that. For people who do it with a certain amount of love and emotion, for them it may be different. But for people who are dedicated to sex, their greatest problem is that it is too bloody brief. So now if I teach you how to be in it all the time, twenty-four hours a day, with nobody's help, are you interested to learn?
Questioner: Yes.
Sadhguru: So that is why you are in yoga. Just sitting here and breathing is a million times more pleasurable than anything that you have known. There are people who have been to Samyama. They might have not known it all the time, but you can ask them. At certain moments of just breathing - just normally, not even breathing in any particular way, just in and out - ask them what level of pleasure they went into. And breathing is on twenty-four hours a day. If breath can become such a pleasure, why would
you go for anything less? See, people buy anything in the market which is cheap either because they do not know that there is something of a higher quality or they cannot afford it. Why you are driving a beat up Ford is because you either have not driven a BMW or you cannot afford it. You do not know how to get into it. Once you have driven a BMW you are not going to drive one of those downhill cars. I was driving with somebody in a car recently and he said, "This car goes downhill very well" I said, "That is good!" Once you have known the pleasure of something of a higher caliber, will you go for something less? No. That is all I am not against pleasure. I am all for pleasure, but I think it is stupid to go for small pleasures. That is all
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